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Post by Dabeagle on Sept 11, 2015 16:21:31 GMT -5
Folks, just to let you know, the delay yesterday was caused by an emergency placement and the chaos that ensued. The poor kid is the absolute epitome of the system failing and actively fucking a child and the associated foster families. We had to run out and buy an air mattress, get three kids through showers, etc. It was unexpected and time consuming.
The good news is we will have a Sanitaria update sometime Sunday.
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Post by silentreader on Sept 11, 2015 18:40:37 GMT -5
I know that no reply is needed, but what the heck: I read your comment above and I figure people in real life (kids in need, especially) come before kids in fiction. (Having said that, I'll be looking forward to a new visit to the Springs whenever it is posted.)
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Post by JohnInOhio on Sept 12, 2015 13:11:39 GMT -5
Holy Smoke!!! 3 kids? You're going to have to buy a hotel if this keeps up! I knew you had one, I'm not sure I knew about a second child. Are any of the two likely to become permanent? It sounds like this new one could really use some stability in his/her life.
John
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Post by Dabeagle on Sept 12, 2015 16:43:13 GMT -5
No, unlikely. Blake, of course, is ours but the other two are currently in care. Our placement has some similarities, historically, to Blake in that there are substance abuse issues keeping him from home. He's a sweet kid, one of the better ones we've had, but the plan is for 'return to family'. I d0on't know how that will play out, the parent deserves the chance to fix things.
The emergency is just a sad story. This is absolutely about the system failing a child; in fact I'd say the county is more concerned about treating this kid like a prisoner than a kid. He has a safety plan that includes a baby monitor and a door alarm, so that he can't leave the room in the middle of the night. You must be thinking 'wow, I guess he's violent or something, huh?' He has emotionalk outbursts, true. But these 'safety regulations' were added to his plan because when he was four and his similarly aged brother did something along the lines of playing doctor, this was the result. The county refuses to review the need, even when they have been told by people who actually know this child, instead of just seeing him from time to time. He was in a placement where they reported 'no sexualized behaviors for six months'. Yet, with the child in crisis, a home for just that circumstance said 'we have awake overnights and can do 15 minute bed checks. Do you still require the baby monitor and door alarm? The county said yes. Now, giving them the benefit of the doubt, you might be thinking - this kid must be a monster. Huge, right? Could force himself on someone, right?
Nope. 4'2", 66lbs.
Unfortunately, there is far more that I just can't relate here. But the county is his worst enemy, outside of his parents - to whom the county wants to return him. The placement he had simply couldn't cope anymore and we took him on an emergency basis, our current placement camping out with Blake on an air mattress - they had fun, but were tired the next day. However, that's against the rules, long term, and the little guy was placed in the crisis setting. It's always upsetting.
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Post by bobby on Sept 19, 2015 10:06:55 GMT -5
In my younger days when i was in college and right after, i worked with neglected & abused teenagers. I came to the realization that the "system" was totally screwed up and never seemed to have the best interest of the child in mind. Mainly they seemed to just care about covering their asses. There seems to be no room there for common sense. It's also sad to say that in some cases foster parents are only in it for the money and other benefits they can milk from the system. I've never understood the idea that kids should be returned to the same situation that put them at risk. Granted some people can make changes, but for the most part all they do is play the game until they arent being watched anymore.
My hat is off to you for providing a safe environment for the kids in your care. With the fact that i travel during the week.... i'm a OTR truck driver... there is no way i could do anything like that. Sadly with the way things are today, i'm not sure i would want to given the problems some kids have today. As i've gotten older i've found that i dont seem to have the patience it takes to deal with kids who have problems. I'm sure my future is that i will be the old man who sits on his porch and yells " get out of my yard " LOL
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Post by Lugnutz on Sept 19, 2015 15:46:15 GMT -5
You have a porch?
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Post by bobby on Sept 20, 2015 11:09:56 GMT -5
yes i have a porch pôrCH/ noun noun: porch; plural noun: porches a covered shelter projecting in front of the entrance of a building. i wish i had a porsche though  |
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Post by Lugnutz on Sept 20, 2015 11:14:26 GMT -5
A Porsche usually goes vroom vroom. A porch on the other hand, is more desirable. You can nap under it.
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