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NIfty
Apr 9, 2019 23:23:21 GMT -5
Post by TeddyBower on Apr 9, 2019 23:23:21 GMT -5
Was Googling for something a bit ago and ended up taking a weird left turn into the Nifty Archive. Now I remember why I don't ever go there. Yes, I've read some well written tales there, but the effort of kissing that many toads to find a prince just isn't worth it! LOL
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Post by PaulR5 on Apr 10, 2019 3:38:37 GMT -5
Believe me, Teddy, I have found some boards that make Nifty seem like the cream of the literary crop! Thankfully, most of them have bitten the proverbial dust.
I started reading a few authors on Nifty because a friend (with much more time to read than I had; I was working 60 + hours a week, had a spouse and autistic child, and a sick parent) recommended a couple of stories to me. Often I could tell within ten paragraphs if I might like the story if I tried one on my own.
But much of Nifty is -- shall we say -- "not up to the literary standards espoused on some boards...."
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Post by TeddyBower on Apr 10, 2019 23:12:25 GMT -5
Believe me, Teddy, I have found some boards that make Nifty seem like the cream of the literary crop! Yes, I've run across one or two myself. They don't get much more than a passing glance from me though. And you're right, there are some redeeming tales on Nifty but I lost patience with trying to find them. 😂 |
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NIfty
Apr 12, 2019 1:07:26 GMT -5
Post by Tal on Apr 12, 2019 1:07:26 GMT -5
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NIfty
Apr 12, 2019 7:43:38 GMT -5
via mobile
Post by TeddyBower on Apr 12, 2019 7:43:38 GMT -5
Oh, thanks! I’ll definitely give it a look. 😊
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NIfty
Apr 12, 2019 7:49:10 GMT -5
via mobile
Post by TeddyBower on Apr 12, 2019 7:49:10 GMT -5
Well, I looked. That particular genre of gay fiction definitely does not appeal to me, well written or not, but thanks for the effort 😊
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Post by PaulR5 on Apr 13, 2019 3:41:52 GMT -5
I have to agree with Teddy. I am not into what is sometimes called "adult/youth" sexual interaction. I know some are, but I am not.
Some years ago I read a story on Nifty in which there were two gay adults and one gay teen living in the same British household. The adults refused to allow the teen any sexual interaction with them (except for giving ADVICE when he had questions). While well written, the story stopped in the middle. I am almost certain the author died; he had mentioned multiple physical problems, including heart, kidney, and lungs, and diabetes on top of all that.
I sometimes go to a men only, over-21 only, private campground. It is difficult for me to feel even appreciative about anyone who is less than 25 or 30 years old, or anyone who appears at all teen or child-like. While I enjoy reading about guys of similar ages (as in, normally within 2 years apart or less if they are teens), I am not attracted to that age range and have not been since I was a teen myself.
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NIfty
Apr 13, 2019 18:13:38 GMT -5
Post by TeddyBower on Apr 13, 2019 18:13:38 GMT -5
I have to agree with Teddy. I am not into what is sometimes called "adult/youth" sexual interaction. I know some are, but I am not. I find it rather abhorrent, actually. As a teenager I was repelled by the very idea of sexual contact between myself and someone who was not my peer. That was prior to being forced into that very thing against my will, powerless to extricate myself from it, then being disbelieved, mocked, shamed, and watching the perp defended and, due to the publicity, moved to another situation where he could repeat his crimes on another innocent or other innocents. I was delighted a few years ago when I read he'd died and dismayed to watch people eulogize him with glowing words and undeserving praise. So yeah, not only do I find intergenerational sexual contact abhorrent, I find it reprehensible, ugly, and evil. |
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Post by Dabeagle on Apr 13, 2019 23:00:43 GMT -5
I avoid those stories, though I am okay with adults who have an age gap. I do admire younger men, but I think it would be hard to find common ground to build a relationship - though people manage, so that's obviously not a hard and fast rule.
As a rule, those relationships along with a few other select items aren't hosted here, unless there is a storytelling reason for their inclusion. I suppose being more of a niche site, I can get away with not hosting a wider 'variety' of story.
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NIfty
Apr 14, 2019 4:44:53 GMT -5
Post by Tal on Apr 14, 2019 4:44:53 GMT -5
I have a good friend and she met her husband when she was sixteen. He was her teacher and twenty-four years old. They had a sexual relationship, illegal. They loved each other. They had to keep the secret until she reached eighteen, left school to go to university and they got married. They are still together.
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Post by Dabeagle on Apr 14, 2019 10:02:45 GMT -5
I have a good friend and she met her husband when she was sixteen. He was her teacher and twenty-four years old. They had a sexual relationship, illegal. They loved each other. They had to keep the secret until she reached eighteen, left school to go to university and they got married. They are still together. Sometimes it works, other times it does not.
One of the major problems with that kind of relationship, in a theoretical sense, is the power imbalance. One has an income, the other does not. One has an education, the other does not. There is a maturity gap. It's harder for the younger to develop and grow as a person with a more experienced person as their partner, because it's easier to rely on that person to take care of things. I'd be wary of such a relationship.
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Post by dgt224 on Apr 15, 2019 0:02:15 GMT -5
Dan Savage, who writes the Savage Love column at the Stranger, has written about intergenerational relationships and advocates what he calls the "camp site rule", which says that the older partner is responsible for ensuring that the younger partner comes out of the relationship in better shape than he or she started out, just as a decent camper makes sure to leave a camp site at least as nice has he or she found it. If the older partner can't commit to that, he or she has no business being in the relationship.
That's always made a great deal of sense to me. And sounded like it would be seriously challenging to get right. Adult/teen relationships seem to me to carry all the hardest challenges of both romantic and parental relationships, and far too many people seem to have a tough time getting either of them right by itself.
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